Living Together . . . Why It is Not a Good Thing


Even if you aren’t a Christian, even if you are an atheist, living together is NOT a good idea.  Yeah, everybody is doing it now. It’s the norm.  Who needs to get married when you have people ready and willing to move in with you?  But, here’s why it’s not a good situation.

First of all, we live in a society of me, me, me. . .I have a right to do whatever I want, and as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else, I can do it.  Besides, nothing is right or wrong anymore . . . I don’t have to be accountable for my own personal actions, unless I get caught. Me, me, me, there is no longer a “We”  or “Us”, just “Me, Myself, and I.”

When a couple decides to “move in” together, without a vow, they are saying, “I’m not committing myself to you for the long haul, just as long as the sex is plentiful and the relationship fun.  . . .then, I’m going.”  I’m me, me, me, you see?  There is no long-term goal here, no promise to take care of the other when sick, poor, and at his or her worse state of life. . .just as long as it’s easy, fun, and the sex is good.  That is why people move-in together. They don’t love the other person enough to make that BIG WHOPPING VOW that makes you more than just a sex object to hang with for awhile.

When a couple gets formally married, they make a vow to each other.  The vow is for “better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”  This means that the couple is vowing to the other, not to themselves . . .It is a “you,” not a “me” situation.  They are promising to take care of each other, be patient and loving to the other, stick with the other for all, and under all, circumstances.

As a person, no matter your belief system, we all need comfort, security, and love.  This is not a matter of religious values, it is a matter of basic needs. We need to drive this into these young people’s minds, we need to not be supportive of this kind of living arrangement, and explain to them that they are worth so much more than a selfish situation. They are worth a solid life of consideration and love and devotion higher than the superficial.


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A Master Catechist, Catholic blogger, and freelance writer, you can find me in many places around the Catholic world. When I am not lecturing at the parish, I'm writing, working on a future book, and tending to teens in the house and welcoming my knight home from the coalmines each night. I am passionate about Jesus, our Triune God, the Holy Catholic Church and her teachings, and the faith lessons I am continuing to be graced with.