What is Community, Really?


Lately, I’ve been involved in a number of ongoing efforts and conversations regarding community. Basically, we’ve been trying to get at the crux of what community really is and how to live it, and that’s got me yearning to dig deeper into the subject. We hear the word “community” all the time, used in many different contexts. A family can be considered a community of believers. A church can be considered a worship community. We refer to groups of dwellings as a neighborhood community and have community centers in which people attached to a particular municipality gather for events. Movements and religious orders call themselves communities. Then there’s the whole range of communities for senior citizens. All over the place we run into community this and community that.

But, what do we actually mean when we use the word community? Community is supposed to be good for us, something we need and thrive with. Without some kind of community in our lives, we can become isolated, depressed, and lethargic. The need for community can be so strong that we do things we wouldn’t normally do just to be part of one. Why are young people willing to commit heinous crimes in order to join a gang? They’re desperate to belong to a community, even if it’s a criminal one. Still, knowing we need community isn’t the same as understanding what it is and how to be one.

Everybody runs to Webster when they’re talking about the meaning of a word, so I thought I would, too. Just for fun. And was does the sage scholar have to say about community? This:


1. a. the people living in one locality
b. the locality in which they live
c. ( as modifier ): community spirit
2. a group of people having cultural, religious, ethnic, or other characteristics in common: the Protestant community
3. a group of nations having certain interests in common
4. the public in general; society
5. common ownership or participation
6. similarity or agreement: community of interests
7. (in Wales since 1974 and Scotland since 1975) the smallest unit of local government; a subdivision of a district
8. ecology a group of interdependent plants and animals inhabiting the same region and interacting with each other through food and other relationships

Eight excellent definitions, and eight excellent ways to look at community. But, there’s one essential word missing from every definition: unity. None mention the need for the community members to be bonded in unity. Common interests and participation, yes, but not specifically unity. Without true unity, a community is nothing more than a group of associated individuals.

I like best Fr. Joseph Kentenich’s way of defining community. Fr. Kentenich is a Servant of God and founder of The Apostolic Movement of Schoenstatt. He described true unity as an “in-, with-, and for-one-anotherness.” Isn’t that beautiful?

If we are in true community together, we live in one another, meaning that what affects you also affects me. Your cares are my cares, and my cares are your cares. You feel what I feel and I feel what you feel. There’s a connection between our hearts that binds us together, whether we’re in physical proximity or across the world.

If we are in true community together, we live with one another (figuratively speaking, but sometimes actually also). We support one another. You stand beside me, and I stand beside you. With our various gifts, experiences, ambitions and draw-backs, we somehow complete one another. Your life would not be the same without me, and my life would not be the same without you. When we’re together, everything seems right.

If we are in true community together, we live for one another. When things get tough, you carry me, and I carry you. When times are great, you pat my back and I pat yours. Even more, we’re aware that we have tremendous power over one another. If you give up, I’m tempted to give up, and if I give up, you’re tempted to give up. If you’re full of zeal and hopefulness, I’ll be urged toward zeal and hopefulness, and if I’m full of zeal and hopefulness, you’ll be urged toward zeal and hopefulness. If you let go of your end, it makes it difficult for me to hold up mine, and if I let go of my end, it makes it difficult for you to hold up yours. You act in my best interests, and I act in yours.

That’s in-, with-, and for-one-anotherness.

The Early Christians demonstrated this type of community in both actual and spiritual ways. They “broke bread’ together as holy Eucharist for their souls, but also as sustenance for their bodies. They were aware that what the one did affected all the others. St. Paul cut right to the point in his second letter to the Thesalonians:

“For even when we were with you, we gave you this command: If any one will not work, let him not eat.” (2 Th 3:10)

Sounds harsh, doesn’t it? But St. Paul knew that the Christian community would either thrive together or die together. If they didn’t live the in-, with-, and for-one-anotherness to the nth degree – all the way from the divine to the practical – it would be to their peril.

That’s true for us, too, in all the aspects of community in which we live. When families don’t pull together, they break down. When neighbors don’t pull together, neighborhoods decline. When parishioners don’t pull together, parishes fall apart. When societies don’t pull together, countries degrade both morally and materially. When movements don’t pull together, they lose their charism and mission-consciousness. When we stop living in, with, and for one another, we stop caring about others and others stop caring about us. Our unity disintegrates. Then we have to ask again, “What is community, really?”


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Marge is a CatholicLane columnist.

  • noelfitz

    The theme for the recent Eucharistic Congress in Dublin was “The Eucharist: Communion with Christ and with One Another”.

  • Well, go figure. I’m part Irish!

  • Good article. I also believe that an important element of a Christian community is commitment to the Lord and commitment to one another. Without this, I believe a Christian community will struggle to survive whenever difficulties arise (which they always do). Commitment to one another does not mean we agree on everything, but it does mean we will work out our disagreements and resolve our conflicts as brothers and sisters in Christ – even if it means agreeing to disagree. It means we will not walk away just because we have a disagreement or conflict.

    If we are to fight the world, the flesh, and the devil, then we have to stand shoulder-to-shoulder as brothers and sisters in Christ. This doesn’t mean that we can’t be called to go in a different direction in our lives, but we do it because we believe the Lord has called us to do so, not to sow division in the community.

  • I don’t believe in coincidences, other than “God-coincidences.” Here is a paragraph from my latest article (under The Catholic Family–>Men): “Using the Gifts God Has Given You, Part 2.”

    “Another gift the Lord loves to give us is the gift of community – to be one as he and his Father are one (John 17:21). As we get closer to our Father, he introduces us to more and more of his children— our brothers and sisters in Christ. He gives us to each other so that we can love and encour­age one another as he loves us (John 13:34-35). He wants us to experience his love through each other, and to bear one another’s burdens. As Christians, none of us are called to journey alone through life.”

  • Maurice,
    I really like what you’ve written about Christian community. Thanks for sharing.

  • noelfitz

    Thank you so much Marge and Maurice.

    The idea of community is vital.

    It reminds us of fellowship and being one. In community we are united; we belong to the communion of saints, the people of God, the one body of Christ with its different parts.